First Aid for Your Relationship

When your relationship feels like it’s falling apart—yet you both want to stay together and make it work—remember this: The fact that you both choose to stay means the relationship is already working. You’re simply caught in a temporary, heavy pattern.

What’s happening between you isn’t destruction—it’s healing. The love you share is bringing buried emotions to the surface, clearing out old wounds. Another way to see it? Your patterns are dovetailing, magnifying each other’s unresolved issues. Instead of escalating conflict, try one of these steps:

Immediate Actions to Take

• Seek guidance – Talk to someone you trust, or consult a breathwork coach.

• Meditate – Use the QLB meditation or another grounding practice.

• Journal & reframe – Write down negative thoughts and turn them into affirmations.

• Notice blame – Every criticism you have of your partner reflects something within you. They are your mirror. Ask: What does this say about me? How did I create or attract this?

• Don’t run – If you leave without understanding the pattern, you’ll only repeat it with someone else.

• Process anger wisely – Find healthy, individual ways to release frustration.

• Look deeper – You’re never upset for the reason you think. What past wound is being triggered?

• Hold each other – When words fail, pause. Lie down together, breathe, and reconnect.

• Share mindfully – Once calm, take turns expressing feelings—one speaks, the other listens without interruption.

Relationship Training: Handling Jealousy or Infidelity

If your partner is with someone else and you’re blaming them, pause. Sit with yourself and explore honestly. Complete these sentences:

• The reasons I attracted this situation are…

• My payoff for creating this dynamic is…

• What I get to prove to myself is…

• What that other person represents is…

• The reasons I secretly want my mate to do this are…

• The thoughts that created this are…

• The thoughts I need to heal my jealousy are…

Since your partner mirrors you, this situation may reflect:

• A hidden desire for freedom or experiences you’ve denied yourself.

• Unresolved sibling rivalry (e.g., seeing your partner as a parent whose attention was taken by another).

If the Relationship Ends Despite Your Efforts

Remember: You never lose someone who was truly for your highest good. If they leave, it’s because the relationship no longer serves your growth.

And here’s the best news: Nothing is ever taken from you without something greater arriving. Trust that life is making space for what’s better. Release what’s gone—creation requires a vacuum.

All losses are gains not yet recognized.